But that’s not who Slindir is targeting: The service has instead zeroed in on (predominantly white) fitness enthusiasts, the kind who refer to the gym as “church.” These are affluent millennials who in fact treat working out and hiking Runyon Canyon as if those were almost religious activities, and in that sense, having their own network makes sense. Now, who wants to join my Netflix-binge-on-a-couch dating app?
We have dating apps for everyone from Mormons to gun lovers, so why should this be any different?
It essentially feels like the end culmination of a privileged wellness culture gone too far: proof that toned, beautiful people in their pricey athleisure wear only want to date similarly beautiful people. As writer Rosemary Donahue pointed out in a recent Slindir’s imagery does little to counter this criticism.
The app and promo materials feature white models in clingy shorts and T-shirts, while the sample image for each gender is represented by no less than Barbie and Ken dolls.
This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.
While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him.
At first glance, Slindir is the type of tech invention that inspires knee-jerk guffaws and eye rolls: a Tindr for fit, healthy, “active” people who place a premium on cycling and Cross Fit.
“Active is our DNA, feeling good is our purpose,” reads the app tagline. The problematic name, which is more or less is a play on the word “slender,” hits the point home that this app benefits the svelte.
To assume that fat people will only ever be with fat people is at the very least ignorant, if not completely fatphobic and sizeist.
This myth is much less often applied to skinny or “fit” men, unless of course that person is known to have money or power.
But it’s much easier for people to understand two skinny or traditionally attractive people being together because they’re attracted to each other than when a skinny or traditionally attractive person chooses to be with a fat man for other less superficial reasons.
Just ask a single mom who runs after her 2-year-old, or New Yorkers who are forced to walk everywhere.
They likely consider themselves “active,” and could just as well find compatibility with a person who participates in Tough Mudder.