Dealing with parents dating after death
A sense of relief—both for oneself and for the parent who was suffering—is normal.
Losing a parent will also sometimes turn surviving siblings into caretakers for younger brothers and sisters.
Even if that parent was already “dead” to a child, the emotions cannot be ignored.
It leaves people with feelings of unfinished business, lost opportunity, ambivalence, regret; and also feelings of relief and freedom.
Saying goodbye to a parent is one of the hardest things we face in our lives.
It is also something that almost everyone goes through.
The timing of the death also affects survivors’ reactions. The most common emotions and normal reactions include: After learning of a parent’s passing, an individual will begin showing symptoms of the five stages of grief.
Other times, parents may die unexpectedly, or too early in life, leaving behind children and other loved ones.Renewed grief on these occasions is known as an anniversary reaction, and while these reactions can re-occur for years, they are most common for the first three to 24 months.These types of anniversary reactions are even more pronounced in children.The only way to deal with these emotions is to face them in psychotherapy or grief therapy.If the surviving adult was a caretaker for the parent, similar feelings of guilt and ambivalence will be experienced.