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As the fear of losing him as opposed to the joy of having him around. If you cruise down the highway thinking “I really don’t want to crash”, what’s going to happen? And if you think “I really don’t want to come off as needy and drive him away”, you are probably going to come off as needy and drive him away. So instead of thinking “I don’t want to lose him” (which is the root of why you want to call him, needily, and also why you don’t want to call him, so you don’t seem needy, which is still neediness), think, “Gosh, I really like my man and I’d like to speak to him and convey to him how great he is and how much I appreciate him and love talking to him!
” In fact, I find it interesting that you should be worried that your calling him is a burden ever happen?
I really appreciate your advice and have listened to your CD over and over again.
I also followed your Tao of Dating principles, which was beyond enlightening for me, as it turned the tables and made me responsible for doing my own housework and trying to be the goddess and I still think ‘What would a goddess do?
Human beings are phenomenally good at noticing deviations from a baseline.
So as soon as you’re in an established intimate relationship, decide how often you want to speak to him, and establish that as a baseline.
I think it’s partially my fault, since following your advice, I got out and dated more than one guy at the beginning and did not call the guys but generally waited for them to call (new concept for me and it actually worked, thanks! Eventually he rose to the top and we started dating exclusively and I continued to let him initiate most of the calls but now I don’t know if he’s gotten ‘settled in’, but when I don’t see him, he doesn’t call that often.
Here it is: It really frustrates me that when I don’t see him, that we barely speak on the phone…It’s just that I would like to talk to him more when I’m not able to see him and when I don’t, I feel disconnected.
We have great communication, great attraction, share the same values, have fun together, etc. We see each other as much as possible, however with his child and my work schedule, it’s sometimes not as much as we would like.
At any rate it is one of the best, if not the best, relationship, I have ever been in, however there is only one thing that bothers me and that I don’t know how to address it.
Notice how in both Scenario A and Scenario B, the ladies have called their men 4 times in a 5-day stretch. In B, the guy’s thinking he’s got an amazingly self-sufficient girlfriend who barely needs to call him. There’s a whole section on which should be mandatory reading for all of you.
But the fourth call in Scenario A is more likely to be welcome than the one in Scenario B. 3) Trust your intuition without dumping on him too much.
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