Dating a divorced male
They rush into new relationships -- and often into new marriages -- within the first year.
"You don't want to be seen as an enemy or an antagonist but as a co-parent," says Arizona State University professor emeritus of psychology Sanford L. "I'm not saying that that will be easy, but everybody will be better off." Braver, co-author of Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths, recommends that men consider conflict and anger management classes.
Call up old friends, join a softball team, a club, or a professional association. Just don't make the mistake of expecting your kids to be upbeat about it.
"Expand your social and professional network to avoid isolation." He also says that the aftermath of a divorce is great time to go back to school. "The last thing the kids want to see is parents getting involved with someone else," says Gordon E.
"Lots of guys have never had experience as the primary caregiver, and they don't know what to do and have trouble adapting," Buser says.
"But divorce gives them an opportunity, when they are with their kids, to be a full-time parent for the first time.